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Monday, December 12, 2011
Redirecting Children's Hyperactivity
There are two fears concerning the child's mother, autism and hyper active. If children affected by autism, the mother would be very nervous because her son out of focus, tend to be quiet and difficult to adapt. If hyperactive even agitated because his son hard to control. In fact, the average child with autism and hyperactivity have an INCREDIBLE INTELLIGENCE.
Managing hyperactive children do need extraordinary patience, as well as recognition for not always feel tired, for the good of the child. Hyperactive children are always moving, naughty, could not concentrate. Desires must be fulfilled. They also sometimes impulsive or
do things suddenly without any prior thought. This behavior disorder usually occurs in preschoolers basis, or before they were aged 7 years.
Managing hyperactive children do need extraordinary patience, as well as recognition for not always feel tired, for the good of the child. Hyperactive children are always moving, naughty, could not concentrate. Desires must be fulfilled. They also sometimes impulsive or
do things suddenly without any prior thought. This behavior disorder usually occurs in preschoolers basis, or before they were aged 7 years.
1. Check
Not all of the outrageous behavior can be classified as hyperactive. Therefore, you need to increase knowledge about hyperactivity disorder. All you have to do is consult the problems suffered by children to child psychology therapist. This is important because hyperactivity disorder can affect mental and physical health of children, as well as its ability to absorb the lessons and socialize. The goal is to get a clue from the right people about what you can do at home. It is also useful to remove the guilt and improve your attitude so as not to be too demanding child abuse. Here, usually the experts will provide an appropriate drug or a therapy.
2. Understand
To be able to handle hyper active child, there is also a good idea if you and your family members follow parpenting support group and skill training. The goal in order to better understand attitudes and behaviors of children, and what they need, both psychologically, cognitive (intellectual) and physiologically. If the child feels that parents and other family members can understand the desires, feelings, frustration, then this condition will increase the likelihood of a child can grow up like other normal people.
3. Train for Focus
Do not press him, accept the situation. . Treat your child with a warm and patient, but consistent and firm in applying the norms and duties. If children can not stay in one place, try to hold her hands gently, then invite to sit still. Ask your child's eyes when speaking or spoken to. Give directions in a tone that lembuat, without having to shout. This directive is important to train and discipline children concentrate on one job. You have to be consistent. If the requested he's doing something, do not berikandia threat but understanding, which letting him know why you expect him to do that.
4. Examine
If he had been "at home" to sit longer, lead a child to train eye-hand coordination by connecting the dots that make up the numbers or letters. This exercise also aims to improve the way of writing numbers that are not good and wrong. Furthermore, children can be given a practice drawing simple shapes and colors. This exercise is very useful for practicing fine motor skills. Can also be started counting exercises with a variety of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division. Start with the addition or subtraction with numbers under 10. after that newly introduced concept of the number "0" correctly.
5. Generate Trust Himself
If able, this could also be studied, use of behavior management techniques, such as using positive reinforcement. For example, give praise when the child eats with the orderly or managed to do something right, providing consistent discipline, and always monitor children's behavior. The goal is to improve the child's confidence.
In addition, children can also manage their own behavior with parental guidance. For example, by giving good example to children, and if one day the kids break them, parents remind children about the example of parents who had given previously.
In this stage, keep your emotions are in a stable point, so he knows, the positive reinforcement that does not come over control of anger. Remember, the average hyperactive children are also very sensitive.
In addition, children can also manage their own behavior with parental guidance. For example, by giving good example to children, and if one day the kids break them, parents remind children about the example of parents who had given previously.
In this stage, keep your emotions are in a stable point, so he knows, the positive reinforcement that does not come over control of anger. Remember, the average hyperactive children are also very sensitive.
6. His interest Identify Direction
If he moves on, do not panic, Include, and note well, where exactly is the purpose of her liveliness. Do not be banned altogether, or he'll prustasi. The most important thing is to recognize the talent or inclination early attention.
That way, you can provide enough space for the child's activity to channel excess energy. For example, include the child on the soccer underage club or swim, so that children learn to socialize and discipline. Children also learn bersosial because he must follow the procedure group.
That way, you can provide enough space for the child's activity to channel excess energy. For example, include the child on the soccer underage club or swim, so that children learn to socialize and discipline. Children also learn bersosial because he must follow the procedure group.
7. Ask Him Talk
It's very important you apply. Remember, hyperactive children tend to be difficult to communicate and bersosialisai, busy with itself. Because of that, help the child in the social order he learned the values of what is acceptable group. For example doing activities together, so you can teach children how to socialize with friends and the environment. It does take patience and gentleness.
"Developing your child's communication skills takes time. First of all he must be equipped with an attitude of respect, tolerance, mutual understanding and empathy," said Susan Barron, Ph.D., Director of Development and Learning Center Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York in one of his article in Child magazine.
"Developing your child's communication skills takes time. First of all he must be equipped with an attitude of respect, tolerance, mutual understanding and empathy," said Susan Barron, Ph.D., Director of Development and Learning Center Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York in one of his article in Child magazine.
8. Ready shoulder to shoulder
If he has been able to speak his mind, you can immediately help her realize what she wants. Do not hesitate. If necessary, work with teachers in schools so that teachers understand the actual condition of the child. Ask the teachers do not have to yell, considered a bad boy, or exclude, as it will impact is worse for mental health. Cooperation is also important because children concentrate and absorb tough lesson well. It takes patience and guidance from teachers for hyperactive children.
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Saturday, October 22, 2011
I was Forced to Marry Himself
Hopefully the events below to make us learn to be grateful for what we have:
I hate it, that's what always whisper in my heart for most of our time together. Though married, I never really gave my heart to him. Married parents under compulsion, make me hate my own husband.
Although forced marriage, I never showed hatred attitude. Though hated it, every day I serve him as wife the task. I had to do it all because I had no other grip. Several times the urge to leave but I do not have the financial capability and support for anyone. Both my parents were very fond of my husband because according to them, my husband is a figure of perfect husband for their only daughter.
When married, I became a wife who is very spoiled. I did everything as I please. My husband also indulged in such a way. I never really had my duties as a wife. I always depend on him because I thought it was supposed to be after what he did to me. I have given my life to him so that made me happy with his duty to obey all my wishes.
In our house, I'm the queen. No one dared to resist. If there is the slightest problem, I always blame my husband. I do not like a wet towel placed on the bed, I hate to see it put the spoon stirring the rest of the milk on the table and it left a sticky, I hate when he uses my computer even if only to finish the job. I was angry when he hung his clothes in kapstock my shirt, I was also angry when he wore a toothpaste without squeezing it neatly, I was angry when he contacted me through many times when I'm having fun with my friends.
At first I chose to not have children. Although it does not work, but I do not want to take care of the child. Initially he and I will support the family planning with the pill. But apparently he hid his desire so deep that one day I forgot to take birth control pills and even though he knew he had let it. I also pregnant and realized after more than four months, dokterpun reject abortion.That's the greatest anger him. Anger grew when I became pregnant and had a pair of twins had a difficult birth. I forced him to act a vasectomy so I'm not pregnant anymore. Dutifully, he did all my wishes because I threatened to leave with our two children.
Time passed until the children do not feel repetitive to-eight years. Like the previous morning, I woke up last. Her husband and children were waiting for me at the dinner table. As usual, it was he who provides breakfast and drive the kids to school. That day, he reminded that the day was the anniversary of my mother. I just replied with a nod without regard to the words that remind the events the previous year, when I choose to go to the mall and was not present at the mother.
Well, because they feel trapped by my marriage, I also hate my parents.
Prior to the office, usually my husband just kissed me and followed the children. But that day, he also hugged me so the kids tease him noisily. I tried to dodge and let go of her arms. Although finally smile with the children. He returned several times to kiss at the door, as if the weight to go.
When they leave, I will decide to go to the salon. Spend the time to salon is my hobby. I arrived at the salon langgananku few hours later. In the salon I met one of my friends as well as those who did not like. We chat with each other engrossed including exhibiting our activities. It was time I had to pay the bills salon, but how shocked I was when I realized that my wallet left behind at home. Although the deepest reach into my bag until I could not find it in the bag. Trying to remember what happened until I could not find my wallet I called my husband and ask.
"Sorry dear, Farhan yesterday asking pocket money and I do not have small money it took from your wallet. I forgot to put it back into your bag, if not one I put on my desk. "Said explained gently.
Angrily, I scolded her harshly. I hung up without waiting for finish. Shortly thereafter, handphoneku resumes and although still upset, I will lift it with half snaps. "What else?"
"Honey, I'm home now, I'll grab his wallet and drove him to you. Unfortunately now there is where? "Asked my husband quickly, afraid I hung up again. I mention the name of my salon and without waiting for the answer again, I re-hung. I spoke with the cashier and said that my husband would come to pay my bill. The owner of the salon that my friend had in fact let me go and said I could pay for it later when I come back again. But the shame of the "enemy" also come to hear me out of my wallet makes me proud to owe first.
Rain fell when I look out and hope the car until my husband soon. Minutes stretched into hours, I was getting impatient so started calling my husband's cell phone. There was no response despite repeated call. Though usually only two times my phone rings already lifted. I began to feel uncomfortable and angry.
My phone was appointed after several attempts. When sound bentakanku yet again come out, a strange voice answered the phone my husband. I was silent for a moment before the sound stranger introduced himself, "Good day, mother. Is the mother the wife of the father armandi? "I answer that question soon. Stranger turned out to be a cop, he was told that my husband had an accident and he is currently taken to the police hospital. At that moment I was silent and only answer thank you. When the phone is closed, I crouched in puzzlement. My hands clutched the phone in my hands and some salon employees approached me with alacrity asked what was wrong until my face turned pale white as paper.
Somehow I ended up in hospital. Somehow also knew the whole family was there to catch up. I'm just waiting for my husband's silence in front of the emergency room. I do not know what to do because all this was he who did everything for me. When finally after waiting several hours, just when the maghrib prayer echoes sounded a doctor came out and delivered the news. My husband is gone. He went not because of the accident itself, stroke was the cause of his death.
Done heard that fact, I even busy parents and parents reinforce the shock. There was absolutely no drop of tears on my eyes out. I was busy calming the mother and father-in-law. Children who are hit with a tight hug but their grief was not able to make me cry.
When the corpse was brought into the house and I sat in front of him, I stared face. I realize this is the only time I really looked at his face that seemed fast asleep. I approached her face and looked at it carefully. That's when my chest becomes congested remembered what he'd given me for ten years together. I touched his face gently that has been cold and I realize this is the first time I touched her face, which had always decorated with a warm smile. Tears erupted in my eye, blurring my vision. I gasped trying to wipe the tears did not hinder my last look at him, I want to remember all the sweet memories of his face so that my husband could not have ended there.
But instead of stopping, the torrential tears flooded down my cheeks. Warnings from mosque imams who are not able to arrange the funeral procession made me stop crying. I tried not to, but my chest tightness remember what I did to him last time we talked.
I remembered how I never pay attention to his health. I almost never set meal. Though he always manage what I eat. He noticed vitamins and medications should kukonsumsi especially when pregnant and after childbirth. He never missed eating regularly reminded, sometimes even fed me when I'm lazy to eat. I never knew what he was eating because I never asked. Even I do not know what he likes and dislikes. Almost the entire family knows that my husband is a fan of instant noodles and strong coffee. My chest tightened to hear it, because I know he may be forced to eat instant noodles because I hardly ever cook for him. I'm just cooking for the kids and myself. I do not care she had eaten or not when I go home. He can eat my cooking only when left. And he came home late at night every day because of the office is quite far from home. I never want to respond to his request to move closer to his office for not far from where my friends live.
At the funeral, I could not stop myself. I fainted when I saw his body is lost along the stockpiled soil piles. I do not know anything until waking up in my big bed. I awoke with a sense of regret fulfilling my chest cavity. My extended family in vain to persuade me because they never knew why I was so hurt to lose him.
I spent the days after his departure is not freedom as long as it wanted, but instead I was trapped in the desire to be with him. In the early days of departure, I sat stunned staring at an empty plate. Father, mother and mother-in-law talked me into eating. But what I remember was when my husband talked me into eating when I'm mengambek first. When I forget to bring a towel in the shower, I yelled to call as usual and when even my mother who came, I crouched down crying in the bathroom hope he comes. Habit to call him any time I can not do something at home, making his friend answered the phone confusion. Every night I waited in the bedroom and expect the next morning I woke up next to her figure.
I was so annoyed when his snoring sleep hear sound, but now I even woke up often longed to hear again. I was upset because he was often a mess in our bedroom, but now I feel our bedroom was empty and hollow. I was so upset when it does the job and left it on my laptop without me log out, now I'm staring at a computer, the keys rubbed his fingers hoping the former is still left there. I used to like it at least to make coffee without placemats on the table, now the scar is left at breakfast terakhirnyapun not want to erase. Typical television remote hiding, is now easily found, though I wish I could replace the loss by losing the remote. All the stupidity that I did because I realized that he loved me and I was hit by an arrow of love.
I'm also angry at myself, I was angry that all seem normal even though he was not there. I was angry because her clothes are still there to leave the smell that made me nostalgic. I am angry because they can not stop all my sorrow. I am angry because nobody else is persuaded me to calm down, nothing that reminds me pray even now I do with sincerity. I pray because I want to apologize, to apologize to God for wasting husband was awarded to me, asking forgiveness for being a bad wife to her husband who was so perfect. Sholatlah are able to remove my grief a little. Love God showed to me with so much attention from the family for me and the kids. My friends who had been defending Stand up, almost never show their noses after the departure of my husband.
Forty days after his death, the family reminded me to rise from adversity. There were two children waiting for me and should I live. Back a sense of confusion came over me. During this time I knew something wrong and never work. All done my husband. How much income I've never cared, I cared about only the amount of dollars which he transfers into my account for personal use and wear for every month the money is almost never left. From the office where he works, I get the final salary and bonus compensation. I was speechless when he saw it did not expect, it turns out the entire salary is transferred into my account so far. Though I had never the slightest use for household purposes. Either from where he obtained the money to meet other household needs because I never even asked about itu.Yang I know now I have to work or my children would not be able to live because of the number of final salary and bonus compensation would not be enough to feed three of us. But work it in? I almost never have any experience at all. Everything is always governed by him.
Bewilderment missed some time later. My father came with a notary. He brings a lot of documents. Then give a letter notarized. Husband's affidavit that he bequeathed his entire estate to me and the kids, he accompanied his mother in the letter but that made me unable to say anything is the letter for me.
I wept reading the letter, there is a cartoon with glasses that are typical of the tongue stuck out my husband if he sent the note.
Notary told that during this time my husband has some insurance and savings deposits from the legacy of his biological father. My husband made some effort from the results of such savings deposits and the business was quite successful despite dimanajerin by those beliefs. I can only cry knowing how much he loved us, so that when death came to him he still flooded us with love.
I never thought to marry again. The number of men who attended was able to remove the figure is still so alive in my heart. Day after day just kuabdikan for my children. When my parents and my in-laws went one by one leaving selaman ever, none left the sadness deep sadness when my husband left.
Now my daughter's two sons aged twenty-three years. In two days my daughter married a boy from across the land. Our daughter asked, "Mom, I'm going to do it later after becoming a wife, Farah because it can cook ga, ga nyuci, how ya lady?"
I hugged her saying "Love love, love your husband, love your choice of your heart, love what he has and you will get everything. For love, you will learn to please him, will learn to accept his shortcomings, will learn that for any problem, you will finish it in the name of love. "
My daughter looked at me, "like a mother's love for the father? Love is that what makes the mother remained loyal to the father until now? "I shook my head, "no, my dear. Love your husband like a father loves my mother used, like a father loves you both. Loyal to the father because the mother's father's love is so great in the mother and both of you. "
I may not have time lucky for not showing my love for my husband. I spent ten years to hate him, but spent most of the rest of my life for love. I'm free of him because of death, but I could never free from the love that is so sincere.
I hate it, that's what always whisper in my heart for most of our time together. Though married, I never really gave my heart to him. Married parents under compulsion, make me hate my own husband.
Although forced marriage, I never showed hatred attitude. Though hated it, every day I serve him as wife the task. I had to do it all because I had no other grip. Several times the urge to leave but I do not have the financial capability and support for anyone. Both my parents were very fond of my husband because according to them, my husband is a figure of perfect husband for their only daughter.
When married, I became a wife who is very spoiled. I did everything as I please. My husband also indulged in such a way. I never really had my duties as a wife. I always depend on him because I thought it was supposed to be after what he did to me. I have given my life to him so that made me happy with his duty to obey all my wishes.
In our house, I'm the queen. No one dared to resist. If there is the slightest problem, I always blame my husband. I do not like a wet towel placed on the bed, I hate to see it put the spoon stirring the rest of the milk on the table and it left a sticky, I hate when he uses my computer even if only to finish the job. I was angry when he hung his clothes in kapstock my shirt, I was also angry when he wore a toothpaste without squeezing it neatly, I was angry when he contacted me through many times when I'm having fun with my friends.
At first I chose to not have children. Although it does not work, but I do not want to take care of the child. Initially he and I will support the family planning with the pill. But apparently he hid his desire so deep that one day I forgot to take birth control pills and even though he knew he had let it. I also pregnant and realized after more than four months, dokterpun reject abortion.That's the greatest anger him. Anger grew when I became pregnant and had a pair of twins had a difficult birth. I forced him to act a vasectomy so I'm not pregnant anymore. Dutifully, he did all my wishes because I threatened to leave with our two children.
Time passed until the children do not feel repetitive to-eight years. Like the previous morning, I woke up last. Her husband and children were waiting for me at the dinner table. As usual, it was he who provides breakfast and drive the kids to school. That day, he reminded that the day was the anniversary of my mother. I just replied with a nod without regard to the words that remind the events the previous year, when I choose to go to the mall and was not present at the mother.
Well, because they feel trapped by my marriage, I also hate my parents.
Prior to the office, usually my husband just kissed me and followed the children. But that day, he also hugged me so the kids tease him noisily. I tried to dodge and let go of her arms. Although finally smile with the children. He returned several times to kiss at the door, as if the weight to go.
When they leave, I will decide to go to the salon. Spend the time to salon is my hobby. I arrived at the salon langgananku few hours later. In the salon I met one of my friends as well as those who did not like. We chat with each other engrossed including exhibiting our activities. It was time I had to pay the bills salon, but how shocked I was when I realized that my wallet left behind at home. Although the deepest reach into my bag until I could not find it in the bag. Trying to remember what happened until I could not find my wallet I called my husband and ask.
"Sorry dear, Farhan yesterday asking pocket money and I do not have small money it took from your wallet. I forgot to put it back into your bag, if not one I put on my desk. "Said explained gently.
Angrily, I scolded her harshly. I hung up without waiting for finish. Shortly thereafter, handphoneku resumes and although still upset, I will lift it with half snaps. "What else?"
"Honey, I'm home now, I'll grab his wallet and drove him to you. Unfortunately now there is where? "Asked my husband quickly, afraid I hung up again. I mention the name of my salon and without waiting for the answer again, I re-hung. I spoke with the cashier and said that my husband would come to pay my bill. The owner of the salon that my friend had in fact let me go and said I could pay for it later when I come back again. But the shame of the "enemy" also come to hear me out of my wallet makes me proud to owe first.
Rain fell when I look out and hope the car until my husband soon. Minutes stretched into hours, I was getting impatient so started calling my husband's cell phone. There was no response despite repeated call. Though usually only two times my phone rings already lifted. I began to feel uncomfortable and angry.
My phone was appointed after several attempts. When sound bentakanku yet again come out, a strange voice answered the phone my husband. I was silent for a moment before the sound stranger introduced himself, "Good day, mother. Is the mother the wife of the father armandi? "I answer that question soon. Stranger turned out to be a cop, he was told that my husband had an accident and he is currently taken to the police hospital. At that moment I was silent and only answer thank you. When the phone is closed, I crouched in puzzlement. My hands clutched the phone in my hands and some salon employees approached me with alacrity asked what was wrong until my face turned pale white as paper.
Somehow I ended up in hospital. Somehow also knew the whole family was there to catch up. I'm just waiting for my husband's silence in front of the emergency room. I do not know what to do because all this was he who did everything for me. When finally after waiting several hours, just when the maghrib prayer echoes sounded a doctor came out and delivered the news. My husband is gone. He went not because of the accident itself, stroke was the cause of his death.
Done heard that fact, I even busy parents and parents reinforce the shock. There was absolutely no drop of tears on my eyes out. I was busy calming the mother and father-in-law. Children who are hit with a tight hug but their grief was not able to make me cry.
When the corpse was brought into the house and I sat in front of him, I stared face. I realize this is the only time I really looked at his face that seemed fast asleep. I approached her face and looked at it carefully. That's when my chest becomes congested remembered what he'd given me for ten years together. I touched his face gently that has been cold and I realize this is the first time I touched her face, which had always decorated with a warm smile. Tears erupted in my eye, blurring my vision. I gasped trying to wipe the tears did not hinder my last look at him, I want to remember all the sweet memories of his face so that my husband could not have ended there.
But instead of stopping, the torrential tears flooded down my cheeks. Warnings from mosque imams who are not able to arrange the funeral procession made me stop crying. I tried not to, but my chest tightness remember what I did to him last time we talked.
I remembered how I never pay attention to his health. I almost never set meal. Though he always manage what I eat. He noticed vitamins and medications should kukonsumsi especially when pregnant and after childbirth. He never missed eating regularly reminded, sometimes even fed me when I'm lazy to eat. I never knew what he was eating because I never asked. Even I do not know what he likes and dislikes. Almost the entire family knows that my husband is a fan of instant noodles and strong coffee. My chest tightened to hear it, because I know he may be forced to eat instant noodles because I hardly ever cook for him. I'm just cooking for the kids and myself. I do not care she had eaten or not when I go home. He can eat my cooking only when left. And he came home late at night every day because of the office is quite far from home. I never want to respond to his request to move closer to his office for not far from where my friends live.
At the funeral, I could not stop myself. I fainted when I saw his body is lost along the stockpiled soil piles. I do not know anything until waking up in my big bed. I awoke with a sense of regret fulfilling my chest cavity. My extended family in vain to persuade me because they never knew why I was so hurt to lose him.
I spent the days after his departure is not freedom as long as it wanted, but instead I was trapped in the desire to be with him. In the early days of departure, I sat stunned staring at an empty plate. Father, mother and mother-in-law talked me into eating. But what I remember was when my husband talked me into eating when I'm mengambek first. When I forget to bring a towel in the shower, I yelled to call as usual and when even my mother who came, I crouched down crying in the bathroom hope he comes. Habit to call him any time I can not do something at home, making his friend answered the phone confusion. Every night I waited in the bedroom and expect the next morning I woke up next to her figure.
I was so annoyed when his snoring sleep hear sound, but now I even woke up often longed to hear again. I was upset because he was often a mess in our bedroom, but now I feel our bedroom was empty and hollow. I was so upset when it does the job and left it on my laptop without me log out, now I'm staring at a computer, the keys rubbed his fingers hoping the former is still left there. I used to like it at least to make coffee without placemats on the table, now the scar is left at breakfast terakhirnyapun not want to erase. Typical television remote hiding, is now easily found, though I wish I could replace the loss by losing the remote. All the stupidity that I did because I realized that he loved me and I was hit by an arrow of love.
I'm also angry at myself, I was angry that all seem normal even though he was not there. I was angry because her clothes are still there to leave the smell that made me nostalgic. I am angry because they can not stop all my sorrow. I am angry because nobody else is persuaded me to calm down, nothing that reminds me pray even now I do with sincerity. I pray because I want to apologize, to apologize to God for wasting husband was awarded to me, asking forgiveness for being a bad wife to her husband who was so perfect. Sholatlah are able to remove my grief a little. Love God showed to me with so much attention from the family for me and the kids. My friends who had been defending Stand up, almost never show their noses after the departure of my husband.
Forty days after his death, the family reminded me to rise from adversity. There were two children waiting for me and should I live. Back a sense of confusion came over me. During this time I knew something wrong and never work. All done my husband. How much income I've never cared, I cared about only the amount of dollars which he transfers into my account for personal use and wear for every month the money is almost never left. From the office where he works, I get the final salary and bonus compensation. I was speechless when he saw it did not expect, it turns out the entire salary is transferred into my account so far. Though I had never the slightest use for household purposes. Either from where he obtained the money to meet other household needs because I never even asked about itu.Yang I know now I have to work or my children would not be able to live because of the number of final salary and bonus compensation would not be enough to feed three of us. But work it in? I almost never have any experience at all. Everything is always governed by him.
Bewilderment missed some time later. My father came with a notary. He brings a lot of documents. Then give a letter notarized. Husband's affidavit that he bequeathed his entire estate to me and the kids, he accompanied his mother in the letter but that made me unable to say anything is the letter for me.
My wife Liliana dear,
Sorry to have to leave first, dear. sorry to make you responsible for taking care of everything yourself. I'm sorry because I can not give you the love and affection again. God gave me the time is too short for love and children is the best thing I ever did for you.
If I could, I wanted to accompany love forever. But I do not want you to lose my love for granted. I've been saving little by little to the life you guys later. I do not want to love hard after I am gone. There's not much but I hope I can give love to use it to raise and educate children. Do your best for them, yes dear.
Do not cry, my love is spoiled. Do a lot of things to make your life wasted all this time. I give you the freedom to realize the dreams that you do not have time for this. Forgive me if I trouble you and may God give you a better mate than me.
For Farah, my beloved daughter. Sorry because my father could not be there with you. Be a good wife like you and Farhan, knight protector. Take care of mother and Farah. Do not be a naughty boy again and always remember wherever you are, my father would see him there. Okay, Buddy!
I wept reading the letter, there is a cartoon with glasses that are typical of the tongue stuck out my husband if he sent the note.
Notary told that during this time my husband has some insurance and savings deposits from the legacy of his biological father. My husband made some effort from the results of such savings deposits and the business was quite successful despite dimanajerin by those beliefs. I can only cry knowing how much he loved us, so that when death came to him he still flooded us with love.
I never thought to marry again. The number of men who attended was able to remove the figure is still so alive in my heart. Day after day just kuabdikan for my children. When my parents and my in-laws went one by one leaving selaman ever, none left the sadness deep sadness when my husband left.
Now my daughter's two sons aged twenty-three years. In two days my daughter married a boy from across the land. Our daughter asked, "Mom, I'm going to do it later after becoming a wife, Farah because it can cook ga, ga nyuci, how ya lady?"
I hugged her saying "Love love, love your husband, love your choice of your heart, love what he has and you will get everything. For love, you will learn to please him, will learn to accept his shortcomings, will learn that for any problem, you will finish it in the name of love. "
My daughter looked at me, "like a mother's love for the father? Love is that what makes the mother remained loyal to the father until now? "I shook my head, "no, my dear. Love your husband like a father loves my mother used, like a father loves you both. Loyal to the father because the mother's father's love is so great in the mother and both of you. "
I may not have time lucky for not showing my love for my husband. I spent ten years to hate him, but spent most of the rest of my life for love. I'm free of him because of death, but I could never free from the love that is so sincere.
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10 Ethics When You Use a Cell Phone
So much fun using a cell phone, many people often forget the ethics berponsel. What are they?
At present, the existence of mobile and individuals are like two lovebirds. No wonder, so lekatnya with these gadgets, the users also often forget they are supposed to obey ethics while in public.
Well, to be wise mobile phone users, the following ethics you need to meet
At present, the existence of mobile and individuals are like two lovebirds. No wonder, so lekatnya with these gadgets, the users also often forget they are supposed to obey ethics while in public.
Well, to be wise mobile phone users, the following ethics you need to meet
1. Note Ringtones!
Note the ringing tone you use. Do not put the volume too loud tone, so that makes a lot of eyes turned when the shrill tone in public.
Note the ringing tone you use. Do not put the volume too loud tone, so that makes a lot of eyes turned when the shrill tone in public.
2. The situation calls Shakes
If in doubt use a ring tone, replace the system call in a state, Äúgetar, Äù. It is much safer than installing a deafening ring tones.
3. conversation
Ensure that the telephone conversation that you live not to disturb others.
4. language
Do not use harsh language when talking on the phone, although the subject you are talking with the other person is very attractive.
5. Silent Mode
Do not use, Äúsilent mode, Äù while on the train because it will not make the phone calls sounded.
6. Do not Yell
Do not ever yell when you receive a phone call. If you received sounds less audible, just tell him that you will call back a few minutes later after you are in safe positions.
7. Turn off the phone
Turn off your phone when you are on an important event. If things are urgent, then say earlier that you should receive an important call and apologize to him at the beginning of the condition.
8. Using Mobile Phone Position
When the incoming phone calls while you go about eating together, you should take a position away so as not to disturb them.
9. Not Attract Attention
Do not make calls while transacting business, for example in banks, stores, or are on the bus, so it does not attract the attention of people around you.
10. place
Do not make calls to people in the wrong place. For example, receive or make calls in the toilet of course very unpleasant is not it? So you should avoid this habit.
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Healthy way of fattening Agency
Probably usually many people who want to lose weight. But there was also difficult to know who gain weight even though only 1 kilogram of course! 've Tried many different ways, from eating to drinking a lot of supplements or special milk to gain weight.
Sometimes, instead of the wrong way, but indeed the condition of our bodies are less healthy, so it is very difficult to gain weight. Not just fat people that need to be aware of health, but the person who was so skinny, because susceptible to malnutrition and lack of nutrition.
The program could begin to gain weight with adequate caloric intake. You need more calories than the body needs to maintain an ideal weight. Healthy source of calories derived from olive oil, almonds, potatoes, corn cheese as well.
You also have to meet nutritional needs. There are six essential nutrients the body needs to function properly, including:
CarbohydrateThe body needs carbohydrates for energy. If you want to increase the weight, you must eat enough carbohydrates. A good source of carbohydrates derived from fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Carbonated beverages, cappuccino and fruit juice does contain lots of sugar and fat make you faster, but not healthy. Eat healthy drinks such as orange juice, guava, mango or vegetable smoothies. Healthy Carbohydrates can also be obtained from brown rice and cereals. Whole wheat is a source of fiber and nutrients. Eat at breakfast or in between meals as snacks. But choose a free or contain less sugar.
ProteinYour body needs protein for muscle formation, structure of organs and maintaining the body's immune system function. Protein is also needed to produce hormones and substances kimawi in the brain called neurotransmitters. You need to carefully choose healthy sources of protein, for example from fish meat, chicken and nuts. It's okay to eat meat, but you should limit only twice a week. Choose fresh cut meat and avoid processed like a sausage, beef bolognaise or burgers.
FatRequired body fat as energy reserves, maintain healthy hair, skin and nerve function. And, of course, contribute to weight gain. But you must be careful, eat healthy fats such as polyunsaturated fatty acids, omega-3 and omega-6.
Omega-3
derived from fish, seafood and the walnuts. While omega-6 can be obtained from vegetable oils, such as sun seed oil, coconut oil and corn oil. But remember, do not consume too much because it can disrupt the body's balance system metamolisme. In addition to polyunsaturated fatty acids, you also need a monounsaturated fatty acid found in olive oil. This type of fat will help keep blood vessels healthy system.
VitaminConsumption of colorful fruits and vegetables so that your vitamin needs are met. Foodlovers can combine several vegetables and fruits a day. Basically, almost all fruits contain vitamins from vitamin A, C, E, D, B, K, and so on.
MineralCalcium, iron, zinc, phosphorus, iodine, sodium, potassium, and fluorine is the type of minerals that the body needs. The types of these minerals each of which serves to form and maintain bone density and tooth, forming hemoglobin in the blood, the hormone thyroxine, regulate smooth muscle work, and many other functions. Almost all feed materials containing minerals, such as fruits, vegetables, nuts, red meat, salt, milk and cheese.
WaterIt is clear, the water is a very important source for the body. Water efficacious fade toxins in the body, digestive system, skin retain moisture, maintain healthy kidneys, and so on. Drink water at least 2 liters or eight cups per day.
Sometimes, instead of the wrong way, but indeed the condition of our bodies are less healthy, so it is very difficult to gain weight. Not just fat people that need to be aware of health, but the person who was so skinny, because susceptible to malnutrition and lack of nutrition.
The program could begin to gain weight with adequate caloric intake. You need more calories than the body needs to maintain an ideal weight. Healthy source of calories derived from olive oil, almonds, potatoes, corn cheese as well.
You also have to meet nutritional needs. There are six essential nutrients the body needs to function properly, including:
CarbohydrateThe body needs carbohydrates for energy. If you want to increase the weight, you must eat enough carbohydrates. A good source of carbohydrates derived from fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Carbonated beverages, cappuccino and fruit juice does contain lots of sugar and fat make you faster, but not healthy. Eat healthy drinks such as orange juice, guava, mango or vegetable smoothies. Healthy Carbohydrates can also be obtained from brown rice and cereals. Whole wheat is a source of fiber and nutrients. Eat at breakfast or in between meals as snacks. But choose a free or contain less sugar.
ProteinYour body needs protein for muscle formation, structure of organs and maintaining the body's immune system function. Protein is also needed to produce hormones and substances kimawi in the brain called neurotransmitters. You need to carefully choose healthy sources of protein, for example from fish meat, chicken and nuts. It's okay to eat meat, but you should limit only twice a week. Choose fresh cut meat and avoid processed like a sausage, beef bolognaise or burgers.
FatRequired body fat as energy reserves, maintain healthy hair, skin and nerve function. And, of course, contribute to weight gain. But you must be careful, eat healthy fats such as polyunsaturated fatty acids, omega-3 and omega-6.
Omega-3
derived from fish, seafood and the walnuts. While omega-6 can be obtained from vegetable oils, such as sun seed oil, coconut oil and corn oil. But remember, do not consume too much because it can disrupt the body's balance system metamolisme. In addition to polyunsaturated fatty acids, you also need a monounsaturated fatty acid found in olive oil. This type of fat will help keep blood vessels healthy system.
VitaminConsumption of colorful fruits and vegetables so that your vitamin needs are met. Foodlovers can combine several vegetables and fruits a day. Basically, almost all fruits contain vitamins from vitamin A, C, E, D, B, K, and so on.
MineralCalcium, iron, zinc, phosphorus, iodine, sodium, potassium, and fluorine is the type of minerals that the body needs. The types of these minerals each of which serves to form and maintain bone density and tooth, forming hemoglobin in the blood, the hormone thyroxine, regulate smooth muscle work, and many other functions. Almost all feed materials containing minerals, such as fruits, vegetables, nuts, red meat, salt, milk and cheese.
WaterIt is clear, the water is a very important source for the body. Water efficacious fade toxins in the body, digestive system, skin retain moisture, maintain healthy kidneys, and so on. Drink water at least 2 liters or eight cups per day.
Tips fat healthy body.
often have thin bodies make us not confident, macem-2 wrote his nickname, from the board walk, the legs of mosquitoes, worms, cungkring, begeng de es be easy, that everything just makes us want to hang myself insecure. you know? mean body gemukin want lah ..
If the acounting more maybe many people [especially girls] who pengin ngurusin gemukin body than the body. Because according to research lbih girls feel fat darpada thin. But not a few also tablets of girls / cowo who feel skinny and want gemukin body.
So, for kamu2 who want ndut, follow these healthy tips deh gemukin following entities.
1. Add a portion of Eating
Add your eating slowly-2 [abreg se do not directly, because your stomach needs adjustment]. This recipe proved most effective for weight adds. But certainly wrote you should consider your digestive ability, not until well beyond digestive ..
2. Eating 6x a day
Try to eat at least 5x a day. Morning at 9, lunch at 11, trus at 2. In the afternoon eating again around 5, trus night at 7. If still capable and still literate, eat again around 10. It sounds scary en rada Quote wacky, but as long as you are healthy foods and portions are appropriate, this trick can make the scales go up drastically.
3. Enough Rest
Useless eat a lot if your body can not rest. So, set a healthy sleep pattern, at least 8 hours a day. Kalopun less than 8 hours a day, you can nyur2 disela2 busy time for rest briefly. Pokonya make the body you always in comfortable circumstances.
4. Sport
Sport is very important for the process of forming and maintaining your body metabolism. So, if you want fat, do regular exercise .. Fokusin sport for the formation of muscle mass, such as fitness or body language. This is what makes your body more contained and shaped
5. Healthy 4 5 ExcellentIn addition to serving ngatur and intensity of food, eating species should also be considered. Do not carelessly choose food. Find the appropriate menu 4 Healthy 5 Perfect. Moreover, in order gemukin gain, milk tablets really important, you should drink milk 4 times daily, especially whole milk.
6. Additional Supplements
Nothing wrong with you add the consumption of food supplements, appetite enhancer ato other vitamin2 can maintain your body's health.
7. Snacking
Snacking has demonstrated efficacy and cepet naikin weight. So, if you want to gemukin weight quickly, let's biasain snacking culture. Bring snacks kemana2, especially chocolate.
8. Honey and Fish Oil
To add your appetite naturally, you can eat honey ato fish oil. In addition to maintaining fitalitas functioning of the body, honey & fish oil also adds appetite loh ..
9. Drink Lots of Water
Drinking water emang It sounds not connect. But do not underestimate nganggap first. Water was very instrumental for maintaining the health of our bodies loh. With drinking water and make our body healthy digestion smoothly. If digestive already well automated programs gemukin our body can quickly succeed.
often have thin bodies make us not confident, macem-2 wrote his nickname, from the board walk, the legs of mosquitoes, worms, cungkring, begeng de es be easy, that everything just makes us want to hang myself insecure. you know? mean body gemukin want lah ..
If the acounting more maybe many people [especially girls] who pengin ngurusin gemukin body than the body. Because according to research lbih girls feel fat darpada thin. But not a few also tablets of girls / cowo who feel skinny and want gemukin body.
So, for kamu2 who want ndut, follow these healthy tips deh gemukin following entities.
1. Add a portion of Eating
Add your eating slowly-2 [abreg se do not directly, because your stomach needs adjustment]. This recipe proved most effective for weight adds. But certainly wrote you should consider your digestive ability, not until well beyond digestive ..
2. Eating 6x a day
Try to eat at least 5x a day. Morning at 9, lunch at 11, trus at 2. In the afternoon eating again around 5, trus night at 7. If still capable and still literate, eat again around 10. It sounds scary en rada Quote wacky, but as long as you are healthy foods and portions are appropriate, this trick can make the scales go up drastically.
3. Enough Rest
Useless eat a lot if your body can not rest. So, set a healthy sleep pattern, at least 8 hours a day. Kalopun less than 8 hours a day, you can nyur2 disela2 busy time for rest briefly. Pokonya make the body you always in comfortable circumstances.
4. Sport
Sport is very important for the process of forming and maintaining your body metabolism. So, if you want fat, do regular exercise .. Fokusin sport for the formation of muscle mass, such as fitness or body language. This is what makes your body more contained and shaped
5. Healthy 4 5 ExcellentIn addition to serving ngatur and intensity of food, eating species should also be considered. Do not carelessly choose food. Find the appropriate menu 4 Healthy 5 Perfect. Moreover, in order gemukin gain, milk tablets really important, you should drink milk 4 times daily, especially whole milk.
6. Additional Supplements
Nothing wrong with you add the consumption of food supplements, appetite enhancer ato other vitamin2 can maintain your body's health.
7. Snacking
Snacking has demonstrated efficacy and cepet naikin weight. So, if you want to gemukin weight quickly, let's biasain snacking culture. Bring snacks kemana2, especially chocolate.
8. Honey and Fish Oil
To add your appetite naturally, you can eat honey ato fish oil. In addition to maintaining fitalitas functioning of the body, honey & fish oil also adds appetite loh ..
9. Drink Lots of Water
Drinking water emang It sounds not connect. But do not underestimate nganggap first. Water was very instrumental for maintaining the health of our bodies loh. With drinking water and make our body healthy digestion smoothly. If digestive already well automated programs gemukin our body can quickly succeed.
Avoid the following things:
1. stress
Stress is the most important thing that makes weight loss. In addition, stress is also believed to be the medical world as the cause of various diseases. So, if you want to plump and healthy, stress jauhin yah ..
2. tired
Tired can also make weight loss difficult ride. Eat as much as any body's not going to influence if we diforsir continue without adequate rest. So from now on, perhatiin your own body language. Do not maksain your body beyond limits.
3. drinking Soda
Soda makes the stomach feel full sooner kerasa If stomach already full, we automatically so not laper again, right? So should jangn drinks containing soda, especially before eating.
4. Abis Eat Drink Live
Abis eat you should not drink water directly. Wait for some time [eg 25 minutes] of new drinking water. This trick can make you eat a lot and tetep slim stomach.
Now that's a healthy tips gemukin body and the things you must avoid, now you not need to worry anymore with your body that's thin. You can also freely pake black dress without fear of plasticity thin. With a healthy body and contains, you're also going to look more fres. Oiya, no side effects "you would be wasteful" because of frequent snacks and often buy pants, coz size changed-2. heheheee ...
1. stress
Stress is the most important thing that makes weight loss. In addition, stress is also believed to be the medical world as the cause of various diseases. So, if you want to plump and healthy, stress jauhin yah ..
2. tired
Tired can also make weight loss difficult ride. Eat as much as any body's not going to influence if we diforsir continue without adequate rest. So from now on, perhatiin your own body language. Do not maksain your body beyond limits.
3. drinking Soda
Soda makes the stomach feel full sooner kerasa If stomach already full, we automatically so not laper again, right? So should jangn drinks containing soda, especially before eating.
4. Abis Eat Drink Live
Abis eat you should not drink water directly. Wait for some time [eg 25 minutes] of new drinking water. This trick can make you eat a lot and tetep slim stomach.
Now that's a healthy tips gemukin body and the things you must avoid, now you not need to worry anymore with your body that's thin. You can also freely pake black dress without fear of plasticity thin. With a healthy body and contains, you're also going to look more fres. Oiya, no side effects "you would be wasteful" because of frequent snacks and often buy pants, coz size changed-2. heheheee ...
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